In the rolling hills of South Western Uganda, the Bakiga people have maintained their ancient customs and traditions. A significant part of their culture involves preparing daughters for marriage. This intricate process showcases the community’s rich heritage, focusing on family values, respect, and unity.
The journey typically begins when a girl reaches puberty, marking her transition to womanhood. Parents, especially the mother and aunt, shoulder the responsibility of teaching essential skills and values to their daughters. These teachings cover cooking, cleaning, and childcare, along with social skills such as respect, obedience, and diplomacy.
When a girl chooses a suitor, she informs her paternal aunt, also known as Shwenkazi, who then notifies her father about the choice. The preparations for marriage commence from that point.
According to Charity Kyoshabiire, an elder from Rubanda district, the Bakiga value physical beauty and adornment. The girls’ skin is beautified using natural elements like honey, egg white, and avocado to make it radiant and attractive.
“We Bakiga do not believe in artificial lotions and creams, we use honey, eggs, and avocado to mask the bride’s skin so that it becomes soft and moisturized. This prepares the girl for her traditional marriage. We believe that she should appear totally different from what the community has been seeing, ” Kyoshabiire said.
Festo Karyebuuza from Kyanamiira in Ndorwa East, Kabale district, recalls that in earlier times, when a girl neared a marriageable age, her parents began the search for a suitable husband. This quest involved discussions with family members, clan elders, and sometimes traditional matchmakers. Upon finding a suitable match, families engaged in negotiations, often involving the exchange of gifts, livestock, or other forms of compensation.
Adrine Mpumwiire mentioned in a phone interview the importance of a paternal aunt guiding the bride-to-be through marital preparations, including intimate lessons on pleasing her partner.
“The role of a paternal aunt is to ensure that the girl is well prepared to perform her marital duties. This is when she must find out if the bride-to-be elongated in her labia minora, and if not within three weeks, she is taken through the process. She is also enlightened about foods and drinks that stimulate the lubrication of the vagina like sorghum porridge, honey, muneete, and many more. This is why you will hear people say that Bakiga are El Niño queens, ” Mpumwiire intimates.
Wedding arrangements are a collective effort, with relatives and neighbors contributing to the celebrations. The bride-to-be receives gifts, guidance, and blessings from her well-wishers. On the day of the giveaway ceremony, she is dressed in traditional clothing, adorned with jewelry and intricate decorations, symbolizing her new role as a married woman.
The Bakiga people’s approach to preparing their daughters for marriage showcases their profound respect for tradition, family, and community. This enduring cultural legacy passes on valuable customs and teachings from one generation to the next.
