A verified counselor Published an article in the Counseling Directory on 12th November, 2019 stating that while men and women suffer similar difficulties regarding mental health, there is a difference in the way they address them.
Women tend to be more open about discussing their feelings and emotions, whereas men tend to keep quiet and suffer in silence; quite often, they spend more time at work, drinking, or visiting their “man cave.”
The notion that they can deal with it, not wanting to burden anyone, embarrassment, stigma, not wanting to appear weak, and, in most cases, having no one to talk to are some of the major reasons men tend to suffer in silence with domestic violence.
Clearly, with so many guys suffering in silence and experiencing sentiments like despair and anxiety, much more has to be done to encourage them to open up and take that first step towards treatment.
According to Lawrence Robinson and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., at helpGuide.org, it is important to know that you are not alone. Abuse of men happens in all cultures and walks of life, regardless of age or occupation. Men are often reluctant to report abuse because they feel embarrassed, fear they won’t believe them, and are scared their partners will take revenge.
“An abusive partner may hit, kick, bite, punch, spit, throw things, or destroy your possessions. To make up for any difference in strength, they may attack you while you’re asleep or otherwise catch you by surprise. They may also use a weapon, such as a gun or knife, or strike you with an object, abuse or threaten your children, or harm your pets,” Lawrence Robinson and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D stated.
Why men don’t leave abusive relationships
They feel ashamed; religious beliefs dictate that you stay; there is a lack of resources; you are in denial; and you want to protect the children and your image.
Effects of domestic violence
Domestic violence and abuse have a serious physical and psychological impact. The first step to protecting yourself and stopping the abuse is to reach out. Talk to a friend, family member, or someone else you trust.
How to get help from an abusive relationship
Admitting the problem and seeking help doesn’t mean you have failed as a man or as a husband. You are not to blame, and you are not weak. As well as offering a sense of relief and providing some much-needed support, sharing details of your abuse can also be the first step in building a case against your abuser.
Segal advises that you don’t suffer in silence and be like the fly at the mercy of the spider; help is much closer and more accessible than you think.